I've heard that it's possible to grow up - I've just never met anyone who's actually done it. Without parents to defy, we break the rules we make for ourselves. We throw tantrums when things don't go our way, we whisper secrets with our best friends in the dark, we look for comfort where we can find it, and we hope - against all logic, against all experience. Like children, we never give up hope...I don’t view myself as a grown up in any way. I often laugh at the fact that I am married to another none adult, and that together, we are making a laughable attempt at trying to navigate this world and make a so called life for ourselves. We are a hopeless mess, but we still hope.
Last night we were laying in bed watching Grays Anatomy and visiting and we realized we have no clue what we are doing. We know where we would like to be (even if we aren’t sure why), and we are attempting to get there, but in reality we are just trying to make since of life. Why things seemingly always have to be done in a certain way and why people are always judging each others every move.
I am just as guilty as the next guy in this area. Everyone thinks they know what is best for other people. We speculate that they’re too young, too old, too immature. Whatever it might be, we would never do it that way if we were them. When all the while they are looking back at us thinking the same thing.
There is another couple that we know and most of what they do annoys me. I know how shallow of me right? But I know I irritate her too. We are so different, and approach situations so differently that we have a really hard time understanding and respecting each other. Why do I care if she is so different than me? Individuality is divine! Who am I to judge it.
It’s why one persons best friend is another’s persons enemy. We are all made different with different likes and dislikes. That’s a no brainer I’m just stating the facts. What apparently IS hard for people to grasp, is that its OK they are so different than you.
Someone getting married at 18 can in fact be just as ready for marriage as someone who is in there 30s, shocker I know. Someone in their early 20s will be ready to handle three kids when someone in their 40s will never be cut out for the task. And in the same way someone older will be better prepared for their life choices than you or I. It has absolutely nothing to do with age.
Our God has created us as such unique individuals that we are all ready for something different. We are all prepared for our individual lives. So where do we get off judging others for the way they live their lives, or the choices they make? God gave them their brains, their hearts and their desires. Would we ever question his decisions? In a since we are…
God wont ever take you to what he cant take you through….
Believe it, in your life and the lives of others around you. And instead of being concerned with their choices and decisions, encourage them. What a blessing to be able to know that God is in control of all of this, we don’t need to be concerned for them, we need to be there for them instead.
And so it is my resolve to work on not judging other people’s choices and lives. And instead when I see something or someone I don’t agree with, be reminded at how great God is in creating such unique and different personalities and minds in us each.
"You have a BFF who will take silly pictures to make you happy!"
